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For Those Who Believe, No Proof Is Needed

53. For those who believe, no proof is needed and for those who don’t, no proof is enough.

If you decide to apply the principles presented to you in this book, I believe this is a Tool you will need to incorporate at sometime when using this system. This is an adaptation of a quote by Stuart Chase and it needs little explanation. We all know these people, no matter how many studies, how much information, or how many experts there are, they will never believe what you believe. The reason this is so crucial to understand is that you can waste valuable time and energy trying to convince someone of something that they will never understand. Taking time and energy trying to persuade someone of something they refuse to understand takes time away from reaching the levels we are setting to achieve.

You will run into many who say it doesn’t work. They will try to do their best to make you think that your beliefs are silly and a waste of time. Your focus needs to be on building your house, not trying to explain to others how you are building your house. The only proof you need is how your house is ultimately coming together. Your job is not to prove what you are building, but to stay true to what you are building. If you need assurance that you are on the right track, the people trying to stall your project will have nothing they are building.

The people who try to ruin your dreams should be thought of as a demolition crew waiting to demolish what you are trying to create. How else could you explain it? If you are trying to reach your dreams and goals, what kind of person would try to stall your blueprint for success? Constantly remind yourself that you are a hammer and that as a hammer, you are building but may miss your mark now and then. Take comfort in knowing that as a hammer you are building, and those who refuse to build their own lives can only feel good about their lack of progress by trying to sabotage yours. Your job as a hammer is to build and help others become hammers, but you never sidetrack your progress on those who refuse to accept your help.

Stop Stomping On Sandcastles

83. Stop stomping on sandcastles.

We all remember back in the day playing at the park in the sandbox. After taking some time and a little effort we had constructed a beautiful sandcastle that we were excited for all to see. Most of our classmates congratulated us on our achievements and encouraged us to keep building. But there was always that one kid who shortly after sharing your new creation found the need to go Godzilla on your sand sculpture and stomp all over it causing it to come crashing down. I always remember thinking as that kid walked away with a smile, why would someone do that to someone else? Nothing hinders personal growth as much as hindering other people’s growth.

Sometimes when we aren’t in a very good place in our lives, the only way we think we can make ourselves feel better is to bring others down to our level. If we are having trouble reaching success, we find it necessary to criticize the success of others. It is a defense mechanism we use to explain why we avoid trying to build our lives. For example, if you were to get a new car that you were proud of and your friend found the need to tell you all the problems and costs associated with that car, it is their way of avoiding striving for success. Simply put, they associate success with additional problems and responsibilities. It is just easier to find a way to bring others down than try to reach success of their own.

By starting the process of being happy for others and the things that they achieve, you will begin to associate success with good feelings and relinquish the bad thoughts you have trained yourself to feel. We have just discussed the benefit of forming a Master Mind group which benefits us by teaming up with others to reach new levels. By congratulating others and showing true excitement for their achievements, they are much more likely to include you in future endeavors. They may also share with you some of the secrets they have learned that have helped them along the way. One thing is for sure, if you are in the habit of stomping on people’s sandcastles, at some point they just won’t show you them anymore.

Five Percent Of The Population Will Disagree With You No Matter What

73. Five percent of the population will disagree with you no matter what.

It has somehow been determined that 5% of people will choose the opposite of anything you say, any stance you take, and anything you believe in. They say black, you say white; or even worse, when you say white, they say “it’s really off white, pearl or beige.” Anyway, you get the picture. So when you encounter these people, you have only two choices, sit there for hours trying to convince them of something you never will or spend your time elsewhere. Think about how great this Tool is. When you stumble upon these people, rejoice that you know how to deal with them and that is by not dealing with them at all.

Remember you are now in the business of doing the best you can to improve your success and happiness. Knowing that this 5% exists, when you stumble upon this group of people, you can limit the amount of energy you spend on them. We want to use our energy on improving our own lives and helping those who are willing to be helped. Spending your time on a group of people who will disagree with you no matter what is a waste of energy. If you didn’t know that this group existed before, you might have made an extra effort in the past.

Now you know you bow out early and apply your efforts elsewhere. Do not get hung up on these people. It is our human nature to spend extra effort on this group because the belief is that with a little extra effort, we can prevail. Not true. We know this because if you were to switch to their way of thinking, then they’d simply change to another paradigm. Just think, you have cut your bottom line by 5% simply by eliminating the population that will inevitably choose the opposite of whatever you say, sell or believe.