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Five Percent Of The Population Will Disagree With You No Matter What

73. Five percent of the population will disagree with you no matter what.

It has somehow been determined that 5% of people will choose the opposite of anything you say, any stance you take, and anything you believe in. They say black, you say white; or even worse, when you say white, they say “it’s really off white, pearl or beige.” Anyway, you get the picture. So when you encounter these people, you have only two choices, sit there for hours trying to convince them of something you never will or spend your time elsewhere. Think about how great this Tool is. When you stumble upon these people, rejoice that you know how to deal with them and that is by not dealing with them at all.

Remember you are now in the business of doing the best you can to improve your success and happiness. Knowing that this 5% exists, when you stumble upon this group of people, you can limit the amount of energy you spend on them. We want to use our energy on improving our own lives and helping those who are willing to be helped. Spending your time on a group of people who will disagree with you no matter what is a waste of energy. If you didn’t know that this group existed before, you might have made an extra effort in the past.

Now you know you bow out early and apply your efforts elsewhere. Do not get hung up on these people. It is our human nature to spend extra effort on this group because the belief is that with a little extra effort, we can prevail. Not true. We know this because if you were to switch to their way of thinking, then they’d simply change to another paradigm. Just think, you have cut your bottom line by 5% simply by eliminating the population that will inevitably choose the opposite of whatever you say, sell or believe.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

55. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

If you feel that you are lacking in the success department, the problem might not be your success but how you are going about measuring that success. I find that the problem lies when you are comparing yourself to other people. Here’s a little secret that most of you already know: there is always going to be somebody who has more stuff than you. If you are always trying to keep up with the Joneses, sometimes you miss the great things you have accomplished that are all around you. When we use others as our benchmark, we set ourselves up for failure.

There is another problem; the other people who you believe are successful may be having many challenges of their own. So what you might be comparing yourself to may not be as great as it seems. We discussed earlier that happiness comes from the inside and not the outside. So why would we use external measures to determine how successful we are? We know we are hitting new levels of success when we like what we see in the mirror. As we check our blueprint every 21 days, we will be comparing ourselves to ourselves. When we are hitting the marks we have entered in our S.A.N.E. section, we know we are winning.

If we compare our wins to the wins of others, we can always find someone who can top our achievement. The nicest thing about using this Tool is when you use it, you find that you are much happier and aware of the things you do have. If you’re patient, you will often later discover that the person you wish you were more like actually isn’t as appealing anymore. If you stop comparing yourself to other people, you will become so successful in life that the person people will be wishing they were more like is you.

The Best Investment You Will Ever Make Is In Your Mind

46. The best investment you will ever make is in your mind.

I find it very interesting that I listed these Tools in no particular order, but sometimes the timing of the order works out as if I had planned it. We were just talking about taking notes at seminars and the like, and how it would improve our lives if we did so. Well, you can’t have a short pencil if you have no notes to take. That is why Tool 46 is here to remind us that we must invest in our minds to get the most out of life. What exactly do we mean when we say invest in our minds?

Investing in your mind is not expensive. There are lots of ways you can invest in your mind. Seminars are the most obvious. They give you much information about improving your headspace and allow you to select from speakers you most closely identify with. The advantageous thing about this is that when attending the “headspace” events, you are surrounded with other growth oriented people. Remember Tool 27? I can’t think of a better way to increase business or personal success than by being around people who want the same thing. To take it up a notch, retreats offer great information and are often needed because they cut you off from your regular day-to-day world and cut down on distractions. But mind investments can be simple. Books, CDs and videos are all investments that are easy and inexpensive. Lastly, investments in your mind can also help you abstain from the pitfalls that cause your brain to shrink, and we all know what these things are.

When you start to invest in your mind, eventually it will start to pay dividends. Meaning that as you improve your headspace, the world around you becomes more manageable and things will start to happen for you like never before. The world around you is nothing more than a reflection of what is going on inside of you. When you’re a mess inside, more often than not your life on the outside is, too. Another benefit about expanding your mind is that as challenges occur (and they always do), they will not seem as overwhelming. If you put a marble inside a tennis ball, it takes up a good amount of space. If you put a marble inside a gymnasium, you would barely know it was there. So start to invest in your mind so you can reap the benefits of that investment.