overcoming the past

To Get What You’ve Never Had, You Must Do What You’ve Never Done

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106. To get what you’ve never had, you must do what you’ve never done.

For many of you the thought of taking steps to improve your live has seemed overwhelming. Where do you start? What do you do? What happens if it doesn’t work? All these thoughts of self-doubt will inevitably lead to one thing. You doing nothing.

There is another possibility. You may also do the things that you have done before which haven’t worked and lead you right back to where you started. The reason we use approaches we already know is they feel comfortable. They are familiar to us and we like familiar things. The problem is you end up in a familiar place, exactly where you are right now. To get the things that you have never had in your life, you need to do things that you never have done before to get there.

If you are struggling to reach the levels of success you desire for your life, how could you see it any other way? For starters, this book is the first step. Using the system in this book is a prime example of doing something you have never done. You must be constantly doing new things to reach the levels you hope to achieve. This is why we change our blueprints every 21 days. We do this to DO what we’ve never DONE.

It is our human nature to resist new things because they feel weird and uncomfortable. With practice this becomes less and less uncomfortable and this is a large part of what our blueprints force us to do. It doesn’t stop with this book either. The process is ongoing and you will have to seek out other new areas to pursue and focus your efforts. A strong focus can get us what we’ve never had.

When we do what we’ve never done, it encompasses many areas. First, doing what we’ve never done means taking your effort up a level to where you have never been before. Many believe they can’t do much more than they are already doing. This is an affirmation that we are changing today. We can always turn it up a degree. Working harder is not enough. We have to have that work focused and headed in a common direction. This is where your blueprint comes in.

You will not only be working at a level you never have but you’ll also be more focused than you have ever been. Combining an increased effort with a honed in effort greatly increases chances for success. Understanding that having what you’ve never had means doing things you’ve never done creates an understanding in your mind that doing what you’re doing now is why you are where you are right now.

Celebrate Your Flaws

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105. Celebrate your flaws.

“You know what your problem is…?” Flaws are not a problem, not knowing your flaws is. There are two aspects to flaws. The first one is not knowing what flaws you have. As we are building our life, there will always be areas that need repair. The problem is that there are times we aren’t too sure what really needs to be fixed. Now as was just mentioned, a coach can help us find our flawed areas and then help us apply goals and strategies to repair these areas. This is exactly how the building process of a life works. But you can’t fix what you don’t know needs fixing.

Oftentimes we could ask those around us what they believe are the areas we could use a little work on. Be sure when doing this to ask someone you respect who will give you an honest answer. Also, don’t pick someone who doesn’t have the guts to tell you what you need to hear.

The second aspect of celebrating our flaws is to understand that some of the flaws we have aren’t flaws at all. They are simply characteristics that make us who we are. Many of these flaws without modern miracles or drastic plastic or personality surgery cannot be fixed. You may have a funny laugh, weird ears or just find something about yourself you don’t like that no one else even notices. The risk comes when we become fixated on these so-called flaws. In doing so they take crucial mind time from other areas we can really do something about.

The most successful people in the world find a way to laugh at themselves. When you do this you relax about some of the things you may not like about yourself. There are flaws that we need to work on and then there are flaws we need to embrace. When you use this Tool to do both, you improve the areas that need change and stop wasting time on the areas that don’t.

You Have To Be There Mentally Before You Are There Physically

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41. You have to be there mentally before you are there physically.

Your mind cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and a mental one. This fact is mentioned a number of times throughout this book. The reason I believe it comes up again and again is because it is important for you to understand the role your mind plays in determining success. The key to this Tool is to start to think about what you want and where you want to be. This is obviously why we write our goals down in our S.A.N.E. section.

The reason we need to use this application is to expedite the probability of reaching our destination. So how we can help that occur is to start thinking about being there before we get there. If your goal is to win a swimming meet, you want to visualize in your mind what the water feels like. What it feels like to win the race. How it feels when you’re holding the trophy at the end. By going through this process over and over in your head, your body will start to feel the event happening before it actually does.

This can be applied to other areas besides just athletics. If you are trying to build a successful business, what are the things you would see in your mind that a successful business would have? You would see happy customers buying your product. You would see them sending their friends and family to your business. You would see employees making the extra effort to build the business of your dreams. As you continue to run through this exercise, you will start to program your brain to feel what this feels like long before you ever get there. Hence, you will start doing the things that make this success begin to feel real and then translate it into reality.

If your goal is to get into shape, what do you think it would feel like to be fit? What do you think you would be doing if you were in the best shape you could be? You would be active and fitting into better clothes. You would be getting compliments from your friends and coworkers. Your confidence would be the highest it had been in some time, maybe ever. When you keep thinking about it mentally, you start to feel what it would be like.

When you start by training brain pathways before you get to the actual event, you will plow a way for these goals to actually occur. You can go in many directions with this Tool. You might pretend to walk like the most successful lawyer in town would walk. You may fantasize that when you get in your car, you are driving that dream car you have always wanted. It works on so many levels. It keeps you focused on what you want, it trains your brain to get used to the feeling of the ultimate destination, and in a weird way you essentially enjoy the prize a little before you actually get there. You get your mind more prepared to accept wins.

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