positive mental attitude

For Those Who Believe, No Proof Is Needed

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53. For those who believe, no proof is needed and for those who don’t, no proof is enough.

If you decide to apply the principles presented to you in this book, I believe this is a Tool you will need to incorporate at sometime when using this system. This is an adaptation of a quote by Stuart Chase and it needs little explanation. We all know these people, no matter how many studies, how much information, or how many experts there are, they will never believe what you believe. The reason this is so crucial to understand is that you can waste valuable time and energy trying to convince someone of something that they will never understand. Taking time and energy trying to persuade someone of something they refuse to understand takes time away from reaching the levels we are setting to achieve.

You will run into many who say it doesn’t work. They will try to do their best to make you think that your beliefs are silly and a waste of time. Your focus needs to be on building your house, not trying to explain to others how you are building your house. The only proof you need is how your house is ultimately coming together. Your job is not to prove what you are building, but to stay true to what you are building. If you need assurance that you are on the right track, the people trying to stall your project will have nothing they are building.

The people who try to ruin your dreams should be thought of as a demolition crew waiting to demolish what you are trying to create. How else could you explain it? If you are trying to reach your dreams and goals, what kind of person would try to stall your blueprint for success? Constantly remind yourself that you are a hammer and that as a hammer, you are building but may miss your mark now and then. Take comfort in knowing that as a hammer you are building, and those who refuse to build their own lives can only feel good about their lack of progress by trying to sabotage yours. Your job as a hammer is to build and help others become hammers, but you never sidetrack your progress on those who refuse to accept your help.

Five Percent Of The Population Will Disagree With You No Matter What

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73. Five percent of the population will disagree with you no matter what.

It has somehow been determined that 5% of people will choose the opposite of anything you say, any stance you take, and anything you believe in. They say black, you say white; or even worse, when you say white, they say “it’s really off white, pearl or beige.” Anyway, you get the picture. So when you encounter these people, you have only two choices, sit there for hours trying to convince them of something you never will or spend your time elsewhere. Think about how great this Tool is. When you stumble upon these people, rejoice that you know how to deal with them and that is by not dealing with them at all.

Remember you are now in the business of doing the best you can to improve your success and happiness. Knowing that this 5% exists, when you stumble upon this group of people, you can limit the amount of energy you spend on them. We want to use our energy on improving our own lives and helping those who are willing to be helped. Spending your time on a group of people who will disagree with you no matter what is a waste of energy. If you didn’t know that this group existed before, you might have made an extra effort in the past.

Now you know you bow out early and apply your efforts elsewhere. Do not get hung up on these people. It is our human nature to spend extra effort on this group because the belief is that with a little extra effort, we can prevail. Not true. We know this because if you were to switch to their way of thinking, then they’d simply change to another paradigm. Just think, you have cut your bottom line by 5% simply by eliminating the population that will inevitably choose the opposite of whatever you say, sell or believe.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

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55. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

If you feel that you are lacking in the success department, the problem might not be your success but how you are going about measuring that success. I find that the problem lies when you are comparing yourself to other people. Here’s a little secret that most of you already know: there is always going to be somebody who has more stuff than you. If you are always trying to keep up with the Joneses, sometimes you miss the great things you have accomplished that are all around you. When we use others as our benchmark, we set ourselves up for failure.

There is another problem; the other people who you believe are successful may be having many challenges of their own. So what you might be comparing yourself to may not be as great as it seems. We discussed earlier that happiness comes from the inside and not the outside. So why would we use external measures to determine how successful we are? We know we are hitting new levels of success when we like what we see in the mirror. As we check our blueprint every 21 days, we will be comparing ourselves to ourselves. When we are hitting the marks we have entered in our S.A.N.E. section, we know we are winning.

If we compare our wins to the wins of others, we can always find someone who can top our achievement. The nicest thing about using this Tool is when you use it, you find that you are much happier and aware of the things you do have. If you’re patient, you will often later discover that the person you wish you were more like actually isn’t as appealing anymore. If you stop comparing yourself to other people, you will become so successful in life that the person people will be wishing they were more like is you.

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