Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People
55. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
If you feel that you are lacking in the success department, the problem might not be your success but how you are going about measuring that success. I find that the problem lies when you are comparing yourself to other people. Here’s a little secret that most of you already know: there is always going to be somebody who has more stuff than you. If you are always trying to keep up with the Joneses, sometimes you miss the great things you have accomplished that are all around you. When we use others as our benchmark, we set ourselves up for failure.
There is another problem; the other people who you believe are successful may be having many challenges of their own. So what you might be comparing yourself to may not be as great as it seems. We discussed earlier that happiness comes from the inside and not the outside. So why would we use external measures to determine how successful we are? We know we are hitting new levels of success when we like what we see in the mirror. As we check our blueprint every 21 days, we will be comparing ourselves to ourselves. When we are hitting the marks we have entered in our S.A.N.E. section, we know we are winning.
If we compare our wins to the wins of others, we can always find someone who can top our achievement. The nicest thing about using this Tool is when you use it, you find that you are much happier and aware of the things you do have. If you’re patient, you will often later discover that the person you wish you were more like actually isn’t as appealing anymore. If you stop comparing yourself to other people, you will become so successful in life that the person people will be wishing they were more like is you.