Happy People Work On Solutions, Unhappy People Talk About Problems
62. Happy people work on solutions, unhappy people talk about problems.
By now you know one thing is for certain, what you make of your life is mostly decided by how you choose to approach it. Do you choose to be a hammer in life and take control or play the victim and be a nail? How you choose to approach the challenges in your life will determine where you go and how long you will be there. The first way that people can deal with adversity in their lives is to talk about it. They often will talk about it to anyone who will listen, even people they don’t know very well. The reason they have to talk to total strangers is because the people who do know them avoid them because they don’t want to hear about all their problems for the 100th time. Not only do they always talk about their problems, but they always seem to have a new one to talk about. You just want to say to these people, why don’t you do something about it then? The “problem” with that is it would require finding a solution.
Solutions are more difficult to work on. They require a level of effort that only winners can work on. That’s why winners are mostly happy because they don’t sit in a pool of problems. They know the amount of time they will be in any particular problem will be short lived because when they have a problem, they instantly start looking for a solution. Even better, when they find a solution to a problem, it becomes a win for them and that’s why they are winners and that’s why they are happy. For the person who talks about problems, this is the only way they can get others to feel like they do. Instead of finding a way to get out of a situation and the way it feels, they would just rather have others feel like they do. Unfortunately, it’s not hard to find others to listen. Remember, there are a lot more nails than there are hammers. So finding someone to listen to your problems is easy now and then because they get to share their problems with you. To become a hammer you need to build and building is a solution. Nails sit around waiting and when you wait and don’t act, more problems are bound to come.