Ultimately, You Choose
85. Ultimately, you choose.
Sorry if that hurts, but it’s true. You have the choice, what you eat, who you date, how much you drink, who your friends are, what you listen to, how you react, what you accept as truth, YOU CHOOSE. When there are situations that arise that seem (and may be) out of your control, you choose how to react.
I also understand and agree that we may encounter challenges that are more difficult, challenges we may not have brought on ourselves. Depression, for example, can be due to some faulty wiring. Alcoholism and drug addiction can also be a disease, but ultimately you choose whether or not to use the means available to you. You have to grab the life vest if someone throws it to you.
Most of the choices we have are due to no fault but our own. Just understand that ultimately you choose and if you are making choices that are taking you to the wrong place, find a way to change it. When you really grasp that YOU CHOOSE, you will stop blaming and make better choices OR find the Tools or resources to help you make better choices.
This Tool really is a two-step process. You have to accept that life is all about choice and that ultimately you choose. Part of this first step is also understanding that being happy is also a choice. You need to choose if you want to be happy or unhappy.
When you finally really make that choice to be happy, then you move on to step two and begin by making the choices that are going to bring you happiness. This means making the choices that will ultimately make the goals listed in your S.A.N.E. section become reality. Just writing them down is not enough; we need to make the choices that will make them occur.
If your goal is to get up at 5:00 a.m., then you may have to say no to some things at night. If your goal is to cut out sweets, then you must choose not to have them in the house. If your goal is to watch less TV, then you must choose to not turn on your TV or maybe even more drastic, choose to turn your cable off. Becoming more aware that we are nothing more than the choices we make, makes us more aware when making a choice. You are always one choice away from changing your life.